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Addictive Relationships: What They Are & How to Walk Away

September 26, 2022

Many of us know the “high” when starting a new relationship — the thrill and excitement, feeling heard and understood, like you found your soulmate.

While these feelings of elation are nice, they can also trigger negative feelings like abandonment fears or wanting to feel rescued or needed.

Unfortunately, these highs and lows can push you toward addictive relationships being obsessed with the positive and negative emotions of the relationship to the point where it affects your own healthy needs and boundaries.


Signs Of Being in an Addictive Relationship

When the honeymoon stage ends or a breakup occurs, you may find yourself actively trying to recapture those elated feelings by:

  • Obsessively thinking about the relationship
  • Trying to maintain contact
  • Ignoring problematic behaviour just to feel the highs
  • Putting their needs before yours


How to Walk Away

These unhealthy patterns can be hard to walk away from, but here’s how you can regain your sense of self:

  • Recognize addictive patterns and problematic behaviour
  • Learn boundaries
  • Practice self-compassion
  • Speak with a licensed therapist


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