How To Form A Deeper Connection With Your Partner

Connecting with the person you love is one of the most intimate feelings you can experience. But relationships don’t become amazing on their own — it takes work to attain and maintain a long-term deep connection.

Why Emotional Connection is Important

Emotional connection creates trust and a deep understanding of your partner. However, to be heard, seen and appreciated by your partner, you need to be vulnerable enough to share your thoughts and feelings honestly.

But you must get to know yourself first. 

How to Get to Know Yourself on a Deeper Level

Learning about yourself is crucial to forming emotional connections with others. Here are four ways you can deepen the connection with yourself:

1. Question Yourself:  What are your values and desires? Is anything holding you back? What does your future look like? Are you living with unresolved trauma? 
2. Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone: It's scary to leave the same routine to try something new, but challenging yourself allows for uncovering new talents and interests.
3. Write It Down:  Write out your fears (past, present, and future), your dreams, and what you want for your future. 
4. Practice Daily Meditation: Escape the chaos that naturally runs in the background of your mind — anxieties, judgements, doubts, gossip, ego, and instead, allow your inner voice to guide you to a state of peace and trust.

Deepening Your Connection With Your Partner 

Connecting with your partner on a deeper level requires mutual trust and security. Here are three ways you can work towards that connection:

#1: Ask Open-Ended Questions

To get more than a yes/no answer, you must strategically phrase your questions to encourage your partner to reveal intimate details and emotions. 

#2: Practice Active Listening

Listen to understand your partner’s feelings and point of view rather than listening to respond or judge. Show them you’re hearing them with eye contact, facial expressions, and nodding.

#3: Engage in Regular Conversations

Regular conversations help you learn more about your partner and yourself. Here are some ways to get the conversation started:

• What’s your favourite memory of us?
• What do you think about [….] ?
• Are you dealing with any challenges at work?

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