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Steps to Rebuild Trust and Restore Attachment - Advice from your Calgary Marriage Counsellor

January 18, 2023
(Ways to Preserve Your Relationship and its Connectedness)

Betrayal can be a difficult emotion to overcome, but it is possible. If you and your partner want to save your relationship after a betrayal, keep reading for trusted advice from your local Calgary marriage counsellor.

10 Ways to Rebuild Trust and Restore Attachment In Your Relationship

Healing can be a long journey. But, if both of you are willing to do the work, even the most devastating betrayal has a chance for amends.

#1

Promise to Stay Devoted to One Another

You and your partner must commit to one another and do the necessary work to begin the healing process.

#2

Both Parties Should be Accountable

The betrayer must prove they are sorry and do what it takes to regain trust. The betrayed must be willing to listen and reflect on their own behaviour to see if they somehow contributed to the betrayal.

#3

Enhance Your Communication

Ask each other open-ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer. Don’t forget to listen to understand, not to react.

#4

Schedule a Time to Discuss What Happened

Set aside 15-20 minutes daily to discuss the betrayal. This is more productive than it becoming a never-ending discussion.

#5

Commit to Weekly Marriage Meetings

Strengthen your bond with weekly discussions about critical issues in your relationship, like finances, chores, and appreciation.

#6

Promote Appreciation in the Relationship

Actively discuss and express your appreciation for each other. Having a positive perspective is key to rebuilding trust.

#7

Refrain From Bad-Mouthing Your Partner to Others

When you commit to repairing your relationship, you should think twice before saying anything bad about your partner.

#8

Grasp the Strength of Being Vulnerable

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is how you restore emotional attachment, strengthen your marital bond, and regain intimacy in your relationship.

#9

Forgive Each Other

Take the time you need to process your emotions, but eventually, you need to forgive to heal.

#10

Work with an Experienced Marriage Counsellor

An experienced couples counsellor knows how to get couples to communicate constructively. They can help rebuild and regain trust in your marriage by guiding you in the right direction.

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