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A Practice Of Letting Go

Dr. Christian Perez • October 29, 2020

The meditation begins with simply being aware of your body and the tension you may be holding onto physically. Be aware of your straight spine and your deep inner strength that holds you upright.


Let your mind travel up your body from your feet toward your head. Pausing to let go of tension where you feel it and especially in the areas of your hips, belly, heart, throat, shoulders and forehead.


When you have let go of this physical tension in your skeleton and muscles. Notice that inner rod (straight spine) of strength that holds you upright as your body is relaxed and at ease.


From this state of ease ask yourself the question “What can I let go of right now?” Pause and listen to what comes up without judgement.


Ask again “What do I need to let go of in this moment?”


Go further by asking “and what else?”


Listen and feel the clues your body gives you:

  • Feel into an area of old injury – are you willing to let go of protecting this area?
  • Notice your belly – are you willing to let go of eating habits and patterns that are not serving you?
  • In the heart area – are you willing to let go of past hurts done to you or by you?
  • Connect with the area around your throat – are you willing to let go of the restrictions and beliefs that are holding you back from sharing your message?


Everything that you let go of served you in the past. Collectively gather them in your hands, thank them and release them with love and compassion.


Notice again the feeling in your body of lightness, ease and rest. Trust that you can keep this feeling of ease as you go about your day.


Bring your hands to your heart, honouring yourself and take one last deep breath in and release it as you “let go”.

From Zen teacher - Dr. Christian Perez

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