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What is the Meaning of Sense of Self and How to Develop Yours

May 13, 2022
what is sense of self

Your self-identity can positively or negatively affect how you live your life—it all depends on how you see yourself. 


Read on to learn the meaning of sense of self and how you can develop yours. 


What is a Sense of Self?

A sense of self refers to how you see the combined characteristics that make you, you! Personality traits, abilities, beliefs, morals, likes, and dislikes all contribute to your self-image and make up your unique identity. 


Tips For Developing Your Sense of Self

When you have a strong sense of self, you know who you truly are and what you stand for. 


Here’s how you can build a stronger sense of self:

  • List your identities and how each one affects you
  • List your beliefs about yourself, others, and the world around you
  • Research your family history
  • Practice setting healthy boundaries

Looking for More Ways to Improve Your Sense of Self?

When you see yourself positively, you have higher satisfaction with relationships and live your life with purpose—two essential traits for having good overall emotional health. 


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