The Ghosts from the Past

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HOW YOUR CHILDHOOD AND PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS ARE AFFECTING YOU TODAY!

We are all vulnerable in love – these sensitivities or raw spots are underneath the surface (imbedded in our memories and experiences). An intimate partner may rub against these raw spots – unintentionally, re-igniting an old feeling from the past.  What are these raw spots and how do we know that these are ghosts from the past? Read More




What is really happening in LOVE relationships?

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EVER WONDERED WHY WE EXIT RELATIONSHIPS HOPING FOR SOMETHING BETTER?

I’m sure you’ve heard the divorce statistics, 50% of marriages end in divorce, over 60% of second marriages end in divorce. But the reality is that 95% of marriages fail to achieve what we’re all hoping for, to find real love. I believe that this extremely high failure rate is due to the lack of knowledge that we all have when we enter into the most important relationship of our lives. It’s not about whether we married the right person; it’s knowing the purpose of committed partnerships and understanding what we’re really getting into. Read More




The Relationship Dance

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HOW TO DANCE DIFFERENTLY WITH YOUR PARTNER!

Couples find themselves dancing with each other – often in a counterproductive manner.  One partner seeks connection, being demanding and critical…..“You are never there for me”…. “You always leave me when I come to you.” This style of relating is called pursuing or clinging. On the other side of this dance is a partner that feels suffocated and evades the other with “you are too much”, “give me space” and “leave me alone”. This energetic style is called distancing or avoiding. The more the partner pursues, the more the other partner distances, and the dance continues with more pursuing and more distancing. The result….a painful, defensive, exhausting attempt to have connection and separation needs met. This leaves both individuals feeling frustrated and hopeless. Read More




Why your man won’t see a relationship therapist or attend a Couples Weekend and how you can have him join you!

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Even with close friends, men will keep sadness, disappointments and other internal conflicts to themselves. With their profound fear of appearing weak, most men are invested in preserving their manhood and protecting their vulnerability. They are hardwired and cultured to emphasize successful performance and de-emphasize reliance on others. From an evolutionary perspective, their purpose is to procure and protect, not tend and befriend. Read More




Purpose of Relationships

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ALIGN WITH THE PURPOSE AND YOU’LL CREATE A LOVING CONNECTION!

There is a hidden agenda to relationships. Consciously we may choose our partner because they are attractive, have a solid career and a nice family. However, unconsciously we have selected a partner that resembles our caregivers and has all the potential to help us work through our unresolved issues. When the old feelings of pain, frustration and anger arise as conflict in our adult relationships, we may think that that there is something wrong. What is often misunderstood and underestimated in most couplehoods is that the hypersensitivities and vulnerabilities we experience, often originate from wounding relationships with significant people in our past.

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