HOW TO DANCE DIFFERENTLY WITH YOUR PARTNER!
Couples find themselves dancing with each other – often in a counterproductive manner. One partner seeks connection, being demanding and critical…..“You are never there for me”…. “You always leave me when I come to you.” This style of relating is called pursuing or clinging. On the other side of this dance is a partner that feels suffocated and evades the other with “you are too much”, “give me space” and “leave me alone”. This energetic style is called distancing or avoiding. The more the partner pursues, the more the other partner distances, and the dance continues with more pursuing and more distancing. The result….a painful, defensive, exhausting attempt to have connection and separation needs met. This leaves both individuals feeling frustrated and hopeless. Read More